Thank you for your encouragement and for using the word ‘respectful’ in your response. I certainly tried to lay out the facts and not put another human being down for choices made, so I’m glad you could see that in my post. I agree with you about confusion being a huge red flag! I think the bond was real for me and I”m not sure about Jamie — it may have been more manipulation and supply than love. I agree with you that either way it is not healthy and part of the strength in letting go comes from the desire to heal and the hope that Jamie will see that if she treats people this way she won’t have many people left. I can’t change the way she lives life, but I can stand up for myself and say “No More!” Now that I see the abuse, it is much easier to do so. Thanks again for your encouraging words…xo.