Wow thank you for your encouraging feedback! It is amazing how blind we can be to what others see as so obvious! I believe that is the power of manipulation.
I am so glad that your son knew enough about how to support you in a way that allowed you to see. I am thankful for the people in my life that did the same.
I hear you about being able to spot them now — the clarity we get through the awful experience helps us recognize them and run fast before getting taken by them.
Thank you again for your response!