I completely hear you and if I was on the outside looking in I might have the same opinion as you do. The reason I did it was because the relationship was very unhealthy and it was slowly destroying me. I could have talked with my friend and if I could turn back time I would have done so in a more respectful way.
At the time I felt so torn down that I didn’t know how to even approach the subject. When I tried to talk to my friend about it I was always told I was in the wrong so eventually I just chose out.
A lot has changed since then and when I was strong enough to talk about things I reached out and received no response for awhile. I completely understood why I wasn’t getting a response and I wrote the article to explain how I was working through both my own choices and my friend’s choices in order to get closure.
I am not even close to being perfect and I can admit my mistakes — I just hope others learn from mine and also gain understanding of how to get closure when the way we want it to look isn’t so.
Thanks again for your feedback,